Hi
That’s a challenging questions, since my opinion is based on about 15 years of observations and learning I’ve stumbled across on the subject.
One book I might recommend is Cognitive Neuroscience by Banich and Compton. It discusses brain development and discusses how so much of what and who we think we are is deeply rooted in neurobiology.
https://www.amazon.com/Marie-T-Banich/e/B003VOS9T6/ref=aufs_dp_mata_dsk
Also, Neuroscientist Sandra Aamodt
https://www.ted.com/talks/sandra_aamodt_why_dieting_doesn_t_usually_work?subtitle=de
And Dr. Herman Pontzer’s research of how calories are actually used and stored in the body.
https://www.science.org/content/article/scientist-busts-myths-about-how-humans-burn-calories-and-why
These are, of course, just starting points. I wish you the best of luck in your discovery journey.