Perhaps hostility towards the Church is rising, due to the disingenuous ways in which the Church distributes its love and compassion.

I.e. We will love and support people, spiritually and physically, presuming they meet the "narrow is the path" conditions. One must be "savable". One must not be willfully abhorrent (for example gay.)

The infamous "Hate the sin, love the sinner" is a perfect branding of this disingenuousness. Theoretically, it sounds legit. Functionally, it's a whitewash to make Christians feel better about themselves for treating people as if they "HAte the sin, and hate the sinner."

I.e.

- I "love" you but still find your core nature abhorrent.

- I "love" you, but only if you're willing to find your own core nature abhorrent.

- I "love" you, but only insofar as your willing to tolerate my constant attempts to "fix" you.

- If you refuse to find yourself abhorrent and try to "fix" yourself, then I will keep saying "I love you" - even though my behaviors towards you are visibly non-loving.

TL;DR

I'm sorry, but Christian love is not a zero-sum game where you can list of all the "good works" you're doing, to counterbalance the continued loathing (and encouraged self-loathing) towards those whom you consider "sinners."

“by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast” (Eph 2:7-8)

Christian "good works" will not save Christians from their continued semi-masked loathing of others.